Contents
1. Introduction 1
2. Love, Marriage and Marital Values..2
2.1 The Definition of Love 2
2.2 The Definition of Marriage 2
2.3 The Importance of Marriage 2
2.3.1 Typical Bahaviours of Married People 2
2.3.2 Benefits of marriage3
2.3.3 Chinese Females' Marital Values3
2.3.4 The Marital Values in Pride and Prejudice.3
2.3.5 Three Factors Affecting Marital Values.4
3.Battle Between Love and Marriage..4
3.1 Marriage Without Love4
3.2 An Example Based on Fieldwork5
3.2.1 Fieldwork5
3.2.2 Example A(Love is Luxurious).5
3.2.3 Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs..6
3.2.4 The Importance of Love in Marriage6
3.3 Marriage Without Substance...6
3.3.1 Example B(Love is Everything).6
3.3.2 The Importance of Eonomy in Marriage7
4.Conclusion...8
4.1 Economic is the Basis..8
4.2 Some Tips...8
References 9
1. Introduction
For a long period of time, marriage have always been a big event in ones life. Marriage as a vague concept, it is described as a social phenomena that male and female live together by law. However, when marriage comes to ones life, marital values reach its effect, So that marital values also affect ones marriage life in the future. There is a saying that literature somehow aims at studying society. Literature gives a faithful representation of life and thought of mankind(Jia Feng, 2009). What is more, each work of literature has its own theme. Therefore, Pride and Prejudice is about matters of love and marriage in 18th century. The book describes different groups of couples marital values, such as Jane with Bingley’s, Elizabeth with Darcy’s, then Charlotte and Collins as well. Charlotte is a smart, decent but not pretty and wealthy enough to attract high status male in that society. Since she is ages, choosing a partner who has high social status is her only road to take. On the other hand, Mr Collins also does not care too much about appearance or other personalities, he is just pursuit the life that can higher his status by marrying a women. The life style that Charlotte had chosen is quiet similar to the phenomena that recent society confronted with. Thus, combine with the novel Pride and Prejudice, conclusion can be reach that Chinese girl’s attitude towards marriage have been twisted, which is female believe that substance is the only assurance which can guarantee their lives.
2. Love, Marriage and Marital Values
2.1 The Definition of Love
Love have various definition among different people, such as “love is knowing you found the person that you ready to spent your life with; love is sacrifice, that you can do everything for someone you love; love is trust, that no matter under what kind of circumstances, you know the person that you love will never abandon you. Love exist in our world, and we can not separate that from us. We need love to make our world more harmonious and more beautiful. Even we are not pursuit love, love still can catch us and bring us warm.
The difficulty of fathoming the concept of love is aptly expressed John Shand (2011,4-5) when he says:
Love is so central to people’s lives that the capacity to think honestly about it may be an issue. Love is important to us because it is one of the fundamental ways that life acquires meaning. As one thinks about love, one will in all likelihood be considering something that impinges on one’s life in all-too pointed a manner. It may be hard to be “theoretical” about it. It should be acknowledged then that the degree of emotional honesty required in addressing the subject properly, even when the approach is philosophical, might be difficult to attain. Love is, in a sense, everyday, and yet often acute in its importance to us, it is hard to keep the personal out of love. 通过《傲慢与偏见》的角度分析中国女性婚姻观(2):http://www.youerw.com/yingyu/lunwen_49380.html